Hi there! I just gotta share this book with you! It's a fun, easy read and SO helpful with interpersonal relationships! It's one of my new favorites!
Here's a small sample:
"It shouldn’t be surprising to me, I guess. But I’m struck again by the genius of Jesus and also the love of God. That He would talk to us in such a tender manner still makes me pause. He made us; He knows how we operate, and He watches us, alone among the creatures of the world, taxing our bodies by imagining threats and things that haven’t happened. We’re silly little things. Just as we’ve invented “righteous anger,” we’ve justified our worry, our constant sense of threat and insecurity. But Timothy Keller tells us that worrying is, ultimately, simple arrogance: “Naturally, if you love people, you’re going to worry about them. But do you know where constant worry comes from? It’s rooted in an arrogance that assumes, I know the way my life has to go, and God’s not getting it right. Real humility means to relax. Real humility means to laugh at yourself. Real humility means to be self-critical.” 3 We hold on to worry because we don’t trust God. We hold on to anger because we don’t trust God. We feel threatened because we’re insecure, and we’re insecure because—surprise!—we don’t trust God. When you start practicing it, you realize: choosing to be unoffendable means actually, for real, trusting God. When you start practicing it, you realize: choosing to be unoffendable means actually, for real, trusting God.
C. S. Lewis wrote about this lifetime trajectory, and how “little things” wind up shaping our entire existence, in The Great Divorce :
"Hell . . . begins with a grumbling mood, and yourself still distinct from it . . . Ye can repent, and come out of it again. But there may come a day when you can do that no longer. Then there will be no you left to criticize the mood, nor even to enjoy it, but just the grumble itself going on forever, like a machine". 4.
Choosing to be unoffendable and relinquishing our “right” to anger is a means of unplugging this machine before it gets going.
Excerpt from "Unoffendable: How Just One Change Can Make All of Life Better"
This book is worth your time!
Love y'all! :)